Disappointment

It's a dog eat dog world.

This is especially true when it comes to relationships, so I've learned. In today's world, everyone is looking out for #1. Is looking out for ourselves something that we were raised to do or is it something that happens with life experience? Do the nice ones really always finish last?

When a guy tells me he is in a commited relationship, I am automatically turned off. I would never pursue any guy with a girlfriend, fiance or wife. I'd like to think it's because I was raised with good morals and because I wouldn't want to hurt another woman, even if she's someone I've never met. There are plenty of other single men out there for me to mingle with.


So it really baffles me to know that another woman did this exact thing to me. She knew when she met my ex that he was in a relationship and yet she continued to make herself available to him, as more than just a friend. She even told him that she was in love with him, before we ever broke up. I never met this girl - the ex made sure of that - so I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, but now there is no doubt in my mind that she is the cruelest person in the world. How does a beautiful, intelligent woman go after someone else's boyfriend when she could have any other guy?

My ex didn't leave me for this girl, there were other reasons that lead to our imminent break up, but he really didn't need to tell me a month later that he was sleeping with her. And as mad as I am at him, I still hate her so much more! Just because she wasn't a friend of mine didn't give her the right to go after the man I was with. I feel like she's betrayed our gender and is a shame to our sex. But I think the thing that bothers me the most is that he has now replaced me with a person who I despise. I don't think she even compares to me. I think that's what is most offensive to me - not that he's replaced me - but that he's replaced me with her. I valued his opinion and thought he had good morals. It turns out that he has disappointed me more by sleeping with this girl than by breaking up with me.

Am I wrong to be so offended by this girl? Should I be more upset with him? She was a thorn in our relationship since he started school, but is that her fault, or his? Or is it my fault for not looking out for myself and not being more assertive with him in order to get what I wanted from our relationship?